Life Archives - bekerv https://www.bekerv.com/category/life/ Wed, 08 Feb 2017 09:47:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1 https://www.bekerv.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/cropped-4P6A5325-2-scaled-2-32x32.jpg Life Archives - bekerv https://www.bekerv.com/category/life/ 32 32 88754737 What motivates you to do what you do? https://www.bekerv.com/2016/05/what-motivates-you/ Mon, 09 May 2016 11:00:28 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=376 What is your reason for doing what you do? What motivates you? This is another gem by Eric Thomas! Although he is speaking to athletes about sports, everything he says can be applied to everyday life.   Why does Durant scare me? Because when Durant score, he don’t say nothing. He ain’t getting nobody excited. He ain’t tryna get LeBron pissed off... Read more »

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What is your reason for doing what you do? What motivates you? This is another gem by Eric Thomas! Although he is speaking to athletes about sports, everything he says can be applied to everyday life.

 

Why does Durant scare me? Because when Durant score, he don’t say nothing. He ain’t getting nobody excited. He ain’t tryna get LeBron pissed off or  pumped up, he just score on my man and shhhhhhh. Only thing he does is at the end of the game he kiss his mama, he hug his brothers, alright I’m out. Game over! Shhhh. But the one thing he does- I don’t know if you watched it. The first thing he does when he gets on the court is he does what? Yall better start watching these games bruh cause you gon’ need to do what these champions do if you gon’ be a champion. The first thing he does is what with them numbers? Touch the numbers on the front, touch them numbers on the back – and he’s doing that for who? Which coach? His coach that was killed. His coach died at what age? And he wears what number? He got a WHY! He got a why. He ain’t just playing for no championship. You gotta hear what Im telling you, If yall gon’ be great on that field you gotta have a why, you gotta have a reason for why you do what you do. When he comes out he ain’t trippin’ on Lebon, he don’t care nothing about no Dwayne Wade. All he keep thinking about is – Ima get one for my coach. That’s why he ain’t all smiling – because why? He not smiling because what he’s trying to accomplish he has not what? He ain’t got it yet. He ain’t geeked about winning no game. He not geeked about beating San Antonio. He not tripping because they up one game. You aint gon’ see that boy smile until he get the championship and when he get it he gon’ hold it up. The problem with some of yall, the reason why you don’t give 120% every daogone time you get on the field cause you ain’t got a why for what you do. You ain’t got a why. I walk in the room and see some of yall, I spoke to all of yall when yall came in for the most part. Why? Cause Im looking in your eyes and I can see some of yall ain’t serious. And you think you bout to go out there with the Ray Lewis’ of the world. Negro please! When Ray come out, you see the passion. Every game you see the energy. He come out every game like yall follow me – follow my lead baby and we gon’ win this thing. What’s your why? If I don’t give yall nothing else you better start that whats your why? You why I do what I do and I do it so passionately because my grandfather was a high school dropout, my father was a high school dropout, I was a high school dropout and we bout to break the cycle, I do what I do so my son won’t have to go through what I went through. When I was at the football game, my old dude wasn’t with me. I saw other kids with they father, that will bever happen to me. I do what I do because my daughter says shes going to Harvard . It ain’t even about yall. I’m bout to come here and blaze yall. Why? Cause I’m trying to get to all the NFL. I ain’t bout to miss this opportunity. This is the first NFL team I’ve ever done in my life and I’m about to lick it. I’m about to give everything I’ve got and I will know if I don’t get another gig it won’t have nun to do with the fact that I didn’t put everything on the field. What’s your why? Why do you wake up in the morning? Why do you put on that jersey? Why do you go out and practice? Hwy?

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It’s your dream don’t expect others to support it for you https://www.bekerv.com/2016/01/its-your-dream/ Mon, 11 Jan 2016 12:00:26 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=274 What does it look like? Because if you don’t know what it look like don’t expect me… People call me all the time ET I know what you been through bruh, I know you feeling me bruh. I know you from the D like I’m from the D. You dropped out like I dropped out – I know you feeling... Read more »

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What does it look like? Because if you don’t know what it look like don’t expect me… People call me all the time ET I know what you been through bruh, I know you feeling me bruh. I know you from the D like I’m from the D. You dropped out like I dropped out – I know you feeling me E. E I need $5000 to get this thing off the – I said what? You need how much? Who gave me five grand when I was at Michigan State doing my program, I didn’t get a, I didn’t have no budget. But I didn’t need a budget, I HAD A DREAM! I didn’t need no help, the president never came and said to me ET we gon help your program for this institution to blow up. The president never came and I never quit. I never gave up, why? Cuz it wasn’t her dream in the first place to take care of a group of kids from the D. It was MY DREAM. It was MY GOAL. I don’t expect you to believe in my dream like I believe in my dream. And the problem with some of yall is you want someone else to support your dream. It’s yours! I don’t owe you a dime. It’s your dream, if you want it to happen get your butt up and make it happen. If you want it to happen, rise and grind. If you want it to happen, you gon have to do what I do and that’s get up at 3 o’clock in the morning. If you want it to happen that means you gon have to get home at 2:15 and get your butt up at 5 so you can get to Detroit by 6. That mean you gon have to speak to the chief and act like you got all the energy in the world. Why? Cuz it’s my time, this my moment. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow… Ain’t no such thing as tomorrow, we only got today!.

 

A few months ago, I had a conversation with a close friend of mine about my decision to forgo grad school (or put it on hold) to pursue my passion for photography. Having spent over $6000 on some new gear, I was eager to take my work to the next level. Although I was confident in my decision, I was still searching for reassurance from my friends and family. That is until one of my friends took the wind out of my sails. All I heard was doubt and most surprisingly a lack of interest in my chosen path.  In was in that moment that I realized that not everyone will be as excited about your dreams as you are. Friends and family may genuinely have your best interests at heart but it’s up to you to believe in, support and most importantly defend your dream. Seeking validation about your dream is a sure way to set yourself up for disappointment. After all, it’s your dream and yours alone.

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Don’t ever let somebody tell you you can’t do something https://www.bekerv.com/2016/01/dont-ever-let-somebody-tell-you-you-cant-do-something/ Mon, 04 Jan 2016 12:00:33 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=348 “The Pursuit of Happyness” 2006 Christopher Gardner Jr: Hey dad, I’m going pro! Christopher Gardner Jr: I’m going pro! Chris Gardner: Ooh! Ok I don’t know. you know you’ll probably be as good as I was. That’s kind of the way it works. I was below average. So you’ll probably ultimately rank somewhere around there so… You’ll excel at a lot of... Read more »

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“The Pursuit of Happyness” 2006

Christopher Gardner Jr: Hey dad, I’m going pro!

Christopher Gardner Jr: I’m going pro!

Chris Gardner: Ooh! Ok I don’t know. you know you’ll probably be as good as I was. That’s kind of the way it works. I was below average. So you’ll probably ultimately rank somewhere around there so… You’ll excel at a lot of things just not this. So I don’t want you out here shooting this ball around all day and night. All right?

Christopher Gardner Jr: All right

Chris Gardner: All right go ahead…

Chris Gardner: Hey. Don’t ever let somebody tell you you can’t do something. Not even me. All right?

Christopher Gardner Jr: All right.

Chris Gardner: You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.

 

In this powerful scene between a father and his son we really get a glimpse of the impact of words on a individual. In everyday life it is a lot more subtle and unlike Chris Gardner most people are never aware of the impact of their words. Chris is able to reduce the impact of his discouraging comments by offering some positive advice to his son. In all likelihood, the damage has already been done. The reality is that negative experiences have a greater impact than positive ones. Christopher’s disposition makes it quite obvious that his father’s words hit really hard. The only way to undo the negative impact would be through continuous positive reinforcement.

In my experience it is not uncommon to predict someone’s ability to complete a task based on our own abilities.

I am very guilty of this myself. Chris projects his own shortcomings as a basketball player onto his son. He uses himself as a measuring stick for his son. The result is he a he saps away all of Christopher’s enthusiasm. At this point he has very little interest in continuing shooting the basketball.

Don’t ever let somebody tell you you can’t do something.

One of most important characteristics that successful people have is that they do not accept “no” for an answer. It is their belief that anything is possible for them. Will smith teaches his son a very valuable life lesson. Sometimes those closest to us are the ones who discourage us the most. We value what they input and often take their words to heart.

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Any Given Sunday Speech by Al Pacino https://www.bekerv.com/2015/12/any-given-sunday-speech-al-pacino/ Mon, 28 Dec 2015 12:00:21 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=311 “Any Given Sunday” 1999 I don’t know what to say, really. Three minutes till the biggest battle of our professional lives all comes down to today. Now either we heal as a team or we’re gonna crumble, inch by inch, play by play, ’til we’re finished. We’re in hell right now, gentlemen, believe me. And, we can stay here —... Read more »

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“Any Given Sunday” 1999

I don’t know what to say, really. Three minutes till the biggest battle of our professional lives all comes down to today. Now either we heal as a team or we’re gonna crumble, inch by inch, play by play, ’til we’re finished.

We’re in hell right now, gentlemen, believe me. And, we can stay here — get the shit kicked out of us — or we can fight our way back into the light. We can climb outta hell one inch at a time.

Now, I can’t do it for you. I’m too old. I look around. I see these young faces, and I think — I mean — I made every wrong choice a middle-aged man can make. I, uh, I pissed away all my money, believe it or not. I chased off anyone who’s ever loved me. And lately, I can’t even stand the face I see in the mirror.

You know, when you get old in life things get taken from you. I mean that’s…part of life. But, you only learn that when you start losing stuff. You find out life’s this game of inches. So is football. Because in either game, life or football, the margin for error is so small — I mean one-half a step too late, or too early, and you don’t quite make it. One-half second too slow, too fast, you don’t quite catch it.

The inches we need are everywhere around us.

They’re in every break of the game, every minute, every second.

On this team, we fight for that inch. On this team, we tear ourselves and everyone else around us to pieces for that inch. We claw with our fingernails for that inch, because we know when we add up all those inches that’s gonna make the fuckin’ difference between winning and losing! Between livin’ and dyin’!

I’ll tell you this: In any fight, it’s the guy who’s willing to die who’s gonna win that inch. And I know if I’m gonna have any life anymore, it’s because I’m still willin’ to fight and die for that inch. Because that’s what livin’ is! The six inches in front of your face!!

Now I can’t make you do it. You got to look at the guy next to you. Look into his eyes! Now I think you’re gonna see a guy who will go that inch with you. You’re gonna see a guy who will sacrifice himself for this team because he knows, when it comes down to it, you’re gonna do the same for him!

That’s a team, gentleman!

And, either we heal, now, as a team, or we will die as individuals.

That’s football guys.

That’s all it is.

Now, what are you gonna do?

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Nobody is gonna hit as hard as life https://www.bekerv.com/2015/12/nobody-gonna-hit-hard-life/ Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:00:22 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=286 “Rocky Balboa” 2006 Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.... Read more »

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“Rocky Balboa” 2006

Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!

Self-perception can be significantly affected by how people view an individual. The desire to please others, the idea that something about you is true just because more than one person believes it – these are the kind of things that successful people avoid.

 

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Don’t quit https://www.bekerv.com/2015/08/dont-quit/ Mon, 03 Aug 2015 07:55:23 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=269 When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill, When funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must, but don’t you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, As... Read more »

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When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won if he’d stuck it out.
Don’t give up, though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are –
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.

– by Author Unknown

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One negative stroke https://www.bekerv.com/2015/07/one-negative-stroke/ Mon, 27 Jul 2015 09:59:26 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=264 One negative stroke is sixteen times more powerful than a positive stroke… And if you have people around you who are not sensitive to who you are… and the people that can hurt you the most ladies and gentlemen are the people that you love, that you love – they’re the ones that you’re vulnerable to, they’re the ones that... Read more »

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One negative stroke is sixteen times more powerful than a positive stroke… And if you have people around you who are not sensitive to who you are… and the people that can hurt you the most ladies and gentlemen are the people that you love, that you love – they’re the ones that you’re vulnerable to, they’re the ones that can get to you… And if they’re insensitive, I don’t care who they are… See if you don’t draw the line with people, if you just let them run rampant in your life and you let things happen to you that you don’t feel good about, if you continue to allow it to happen, you won’t feel good about yourself. Your image of yourself will erode. So you’ve got to draw the line.

-Les Brown

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I promise myself https://www.bekerv.com/2015/07/i-promise-myself/ Tue, 21 Jul 2015 04:15:01 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=256 I promise myself To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet. To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true. To think only of the best, to... Read more »

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I promise myself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of
others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the
greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile
to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself that I
have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side,
so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

Christian D. Larson
(As seen in The Secret)

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If you want a thing bad enough https://www.bekerv.com/2015/07/if-you-want-a-thing-bad-enough/ Mon, 13 Jul 2015 07:36:19 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=228 If you want a thing bad enough to go out and fight for it, to work day and night for it, to give up your time, your peace and your sleep for it… If all that you dream and scheme is about it, and life seems useless and worthless without it… And if you gladly sweat for it and fret... Read more »

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If you want a thing bad enough to go out and fight for it,
to work day and night for it,
to give up your time, your peace and your sleep for it…

If all that you dream and scheme is about it,
and life seems useless and worthless without it…

And if you gladly sweat for it and fret for it and plan for it
and lose all your terror of the opposition for it…

And if you simply go after that thing that you want with all of your capacity, strength and sagacity,
faith, hope and confidence and stern pertinacity…

If neither cold, poverty, famish, nor gout, sickness nor pain, of body and brain, can keep you away from the thing that you want…

If dogged and grim you beseech and beset it,
with the help of God, you will get it!

—Les Brown

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Michael Jordan Maybe It’s My Fault https://www.bekerv.com/2015/05/michael-jordan-maybe-its-my-fault/ Fri, 22 May 2015 10:28:10 +0000 http://www.bekerv.com/?p=149 Maybe it’s my fault. Maybe I led you to believe it was easy when it wasn’t. Maybe I made you think my highlights started at the free throw line and not in the gym. Maybe I made you think that every shot I took was a game winner That my game was built on flash and not fire. Maybe it’s... Read more »

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Maybe it’s my fault.
Maybe I led you to believe it was easy when it wasn’t.
Maybe I made you think my highlights started at the free throw line and not in the gym.
Maybe I made you think that every shot I took was a game winner
That my game was built on flash and not fire.
Maybe it’s my fault that you did not see that failure gave me strength
That my pain was my motivation.
Maybe I led you to believe that basketball was a god-given gift and not something I worked for — every single day of my life.
Maybe I destroyed the game.
Or maybe you’re just making excuses.

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